In the past few weeks, many people, especially African Americans, have had to reconcile what they have seen in witnessing the murder of George Floyd and that of their own experience. I am no exception.
I have lived long enough to wipe away many tears of frustration in moments that simply did not recognize or appreciate our humanity. Whether it was in my new elementary school, where I became the first black girl in the class, and the teachers stood behind me in amazement because they did not expect me to exhibit logical thought. Or, as a mother who fiercely protected her kids. Or in every workplace I have encountered. The root was always the same: racism.
Racism, or the R word, can become a hideous tool that acknowledges a structure kept in place to maintain control and dominance of another. I have seen both the masterful and the novice attempt to use R as a weapon to steer the actions of others and/or to demean me, or sometimes both. Whether I was walking my sons bike home in my neighborhood so that he could stay to have a sleepover; or, conducting a campaign during an election; or, working to protect children; or in the Boardrooms' the truly crafty find this tool handy.
I dont always speak about it, but I do see it and I respond when I believe the action I am experiencing is so cruel that it resembles that of an overseer who demands compliance. This is not an accusation of every person I have met, but the widespread presence of racism is a stain to this democracy and to the life experience of many in my community. I have been patient and collaborative. I have had hard discussions with folks, some fruitful and some not. Now it is time to simply diagram what a life in a society where racism has not been eradicated really looks like. It is a conversation starter. We need to face R and we need to take affirmative steps to do something about it.
Growing Intolerance for the Manifested Character of Racism
I, like many others, have grown intolerant of the structures founded on racismthat belief that allows us to treat others differently, to feel superior or to dominate and oppress another with a self-righteous justification. The R can be comprised of aggressive or passive aggressive acts, even micro-aggressive acts, as R comes in many forms. For some, it is revealed in overt murderous acts or for the more subtle, manipulative acts that use code words that allude to race without ever having to mention the word. For the truly sophisticated, it shows up in delay tactics, calls for comfort to naysayers, or an attempt to find the right person for the job. Oh, and my favorite, lets pit blacks in this workspace against one another because after all, we only need one.
My intolerance is a response to a system of actions with a 400-plus year history in this nation. The systems of Racism were installed when a few profiteers acted on the belief that human trafficking, combined with uncompensated work, was a worthwhile business. Slavery doesnt belong to Blacks, as it has been a worldwide practice. While slavery has been abolished in the U.S., its hideous remnants remain. So here you will find a few more characteristics and scenarios that help identify the trappings of this diabolical weapon.
More Details on What R Looks like
Racism is always something that is expected to create a structure of power. It is often practiced in secret and sometimes those who witness it become complicit. For some, there is an inherent need to be a part of the powerful and not the powerless. Others can become complicit by being unaware of past practices or a culture. Racism is always a form of bullying, because it is a way to whip another person(s) into submission. Racism can also occur amongst those who genuinely want to do the right thing, but are less familiar with this tactic. It is often masked as a pending question, where theres an effort to achieve the right fit or find the best person for the job. The word racism itself is rarely used in these situations.
When It Appears
I was in first grade when I realized that racism would be a part of the tapestry of my life. I was playing in front of my new house with my brother. A little girl stood at the end of her driveway and just looked at me and my brother. I invited her to join us. Her response was, My daddy doesnt allow me to play with people like you. I kept playing; after all, I was with my brother, she was alone. Later, I learned that she was the daughter of a police officer. My mother, who was masterful in being a strong woman who determined her own path, told me that some people have a problem, but to never let their problem become your problem. I still live by those words. She also raised me with what some might call good home training. I learned that I would be judged, but not to internalize, that I must keep my composure, to speak enough words to get my point across and to never waste energy on those who create distractions and eat up my time. All actions do not require a reaction but I would learn the difference. But back to that intolerance
Racism Always Expects a Culture of Tolerance
In my mothers generation, society expected a well-behaved Negro. This term referred to the dignified person who did not crack under pressure. The well-behaved Negro protested and didnt fight back; sat at the counter while being spat upon; went to the work place worked hard and was passed over for promotions; and endured code language that demeaned the quality of their work and/or pitted blacks against one another for the same job. After all, we only need one black person to look like its not R, right? It is the culture of the well-behaved Negro that taught black parents to teach their kids to obey the police, to keep their hands on the wheel, to speak politely these are all the lessons of the well-behaved Negro. Emmett Till was killed because he was accused of violating the silent code of the well-behaved Negro.
After the Civil War, the KKK scourged this nation by sowing seeds of fear through threat, lynching and other forms of violence to enforce the code of the well-behaved Negro. This code also tells Black folk to stay in their place or face a penalty that most times was not addressed by law enforcement. In 1921 in Tulsa, Ok, we saw the burning of Black Wall Street part of a trend in several cities where countless murders occurred because those folks violated the code. Implicitly, the code requires submission of Black folk to the dominant race and in police encounters today, it says that your life can end in a millisecond. Amy Cooper of Central Park relied upon the code when she called the police and falsely accused a black man of threatening her. What made her disregard the fact that she was being filmed? Yes, R causes blindness too. Amy relied upon and expected the police to enforce the code of the well-behaved Negro. While poor Amy read law enforcement right, as she has faced no legal ramifications for her act, she underestimated the social tolerance for her demand and so her name will forever be used as an example of a woman who expected privilege and used racism to achieve her goal.
What this Intolerance means.
With the demonstrations of protest all around us, the message is clear: We will not be your well-behaved Negro. Whether its law enforcement or the Board room, the time for sucking it up and watching the effects of R, even if it is quietly implemented to achieve a desired goal those times are over. I have felt this indignation in me. I have seen it in my friends, whether black, white, Hispanic or other races or creeds. The folks we see in the streets are not just the recipients of these heinous acts but those who have grown intolerant of them as well.
This intolerance also means that we must take affirmative steps to eradicate the effects of R in every level of our lives.
What we must Understand
That racism and the remnants of it have survived for more than 400 years in this country, because too many have been silent.
We must recognize that these R practices whether overt, subtle or existing in the form of whispers disparaging the work of another who isnt even aware of the conversation exist and thrive in the dark of private conversations where they are less likely to be detected or judged by a collective body.
Racism is always about power. Those who use its tools have an objective that allows that person to have the upper hand.
Racism always leaves someone or some group of people on the outside of the conversation where future control is being determined.
One of the most difficult forms of R is often found in the political arena, pitting one person against the other, isolating people of the same race from one another. This may appear between political parties or within the same (think Trump and his Black spokespersons).
What we must Do
Recognize that an intolerance of racist and oppressive tactics is a bullying tactic. Being silent is a complicit act that harms another human being.
Know that this growing intolerance for racism includes an intolerance for the fake, presumed, self-proclaimed wokeness that is in actuality, a form of sleep walking.
Presume that we do not understand and work to gain understanding.
Recognize that a failure to act now is a continuing injury to the recipients of both overt and subtle acts that oppress a people that deserve respect and a recognition of their value.
Ask questions at the library not of your black friends. While some black folk, myself included, do not mind discussing this issue, it is not my responsibility to educate those who may need further enlightenment.
Speak up when those private conversations take place that devalue a person of color and dig to get at the source of reason for the discussion. Ask the question, what does the person who whispers have to gain from that conversation?
Speak up when the telling of history does not recognize the value of all involved.
Talk to your friends and work to learn together.
Remember that the burden of racism and what it has created belongs to all and we must all work to eradicate it.
Understand that R has impacted every area of American life, from the church, to the schools, to the courts, to the board room.
Dont give up. Just because this is the way it has been, that fact doesnt determine our future.
Conclusion
I want my friends to know that I appreciate the words of assurance. I know that we have many allies who want to do the right thing. But the desire to do the right thing isnt enough. We must collectively meet wherever we are and ask, what can I do? How can I learn and how can I assist in implementation of better procedures and policies? How can I listen better today? How can we weed out code words in conversation and make sure that we are never complicit in the divisions that racism creates. This is our burden, this is our work. Lets tear these barriers down, together!
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