Dan the Man: Meet the manager of OUWB’s Anatomy Lab, medical students’ ‘first patients’ – News at OU

Oakland University William Beaumont School of Medicine students always remember their first patient and since the schools launch, Dan Schlegel has had a key role in those relationships.

The reason?

Schlegel has managed OUWBs Anatomy Lab since its start in 2011.

He is responsible for taking care of the lab and the donors in this context, that primarily means people who made a pre-death decision to donate their respective bodies to science so that medical students can study and truly understand structures within the human body.

Its a unique job that Schlegel says generally elicits one of two reactions.

People are either super interested and ask a lot of questions, he says with a smile. Or they just kind of back away slowly.

Regardless, Schlegel says he never forgets what the job is really all about.

For me, its all about working with the students and faculty to help build future doctors, he says.

Those who work closest with Schlegel say his commitment to the role is evident.

Dan does an exceptional job, says Malli Barremkala, associate professor, Department of Foundational Medical Studies and director of OUWBs Body Donation Program.

Over the years he has been instrumental in the support of the anatomy programs at OUWB, and we affectionately call him Dan the Man.

I was a little tentative

In his managerial role, Schlegel works directly with OUWB faculty to ensure students have what they need when it comes to studying anatomy in the lab. Additionally, he supports Oakland University physical therapy programs, which also use the lab.

His responsibilities not only include moving and preparing donors, but ensuring students have all of the equipment they need, that the entire space is maintained and held to the highest standards of cleanliness, and that all rules are followed. For example, students are prohibited from taking pictures in the lab.

Schlegel says his daily work in the lab is guided by two principles: the important role the donors play in helping students learn, and the need to maintain respect.

Donors essentially donate themselves before deaththey give everything that they are to educate students, he says. We respect donors as patientsjust because they cant hear you or respond doesnt mean we treat them less.

Of course, the big question is: how does one become manager of a medical school anatomy lab?

For Schlegel, it started when he was an undergrad at Oakland University, pursuing a bachelors degree in health sciences.

During that time, in the mid-2000s, Schlegel had his first experience with donors. It was different from the experience that medical students have because the anatomic specimens were prosected (already dissected by more experienced anatomists).

Still, the experience helped build his comfort level of working with body donors. The fact that he has always been science-minded further helped.

As a student, I was a little tentative the first time they pulled out the donors in that first lab classbut I was never really squeamish, he says. I was more interested in learning how things worked.

Soon, Schlegel was helping others learn how things work as a teaching assistant for Mary Bee, Ph.D., associate adjunct associate professor, School of Health Sciences.

When presented with the opportunity to join OUWB in 2011, he jumped at the chance.

It was a month before OUWB welcomed its charter class of 50 students.

Theyre even more comfortable

For the first two classes, OUWBs anatomy lab was in the basement of Oakland Universitys Mathematics and Science Center. Schlegel said the situation was less-than-ideal as the space did not have windows, the loading dock was across the hall, there was lackluster ventilation, and other issues existed.

Among the biggest, he said, was that the donors had to be moved every time there was a class.

All of that changed in 2013, when the lab was relocated to the third floor of Oakland Universitys Hannah Hall following a complete remodeling of the space that now houses the anatomy lab.

The restricted lab now features 37 tables specifically for donors, each equipped with a special ventilation system and computer. The size and the layout of the lab allows students to move freely and not feel crammed into a tiny space. Windows line the walls, creating a bright atmosphere.

Schlegel says his favorite part of the job is seeing the evolution of students with regard to how they approach donors.

At the beginning of the semester, some of the students can be pretty (hesitant), but by the end of the semester they are totally immersed, he says. Then they come back for the second semester and theyre even more comfortable.

Having an OU alum run the lab is beneficial, says Barremkala.

He has knowledge of the OU campus and facilities and he uses this effectively for a well-functioning lab, he says.

Schlegel also goes above and beyond to help keep students on track.

Dan was one of the very few employees that worked in-person throughout the pandemic and played a key role in delivery of the lab component of the AFCP (Anatomical Foundations of Clinical Practice) course, says Barremkala.

Looking ahead, Schlegel says he is excited that OUWB recently started its own body donor program. So far, OUWB has worked with other institutions like University of Toledo to obtain donor bodies, which are then given back to the school at the end of the year for proper cremation and return to the family.

Well have more control over the embalming process, selection criteria of the donors, and direct contact with the families, which makes it a little easier to get necessary medical records, he says. Its really exciting.

For more information, contact Andrew Dietderich, marketing writer, OUWB, at adietderich@oakland.edu.

To request an interview, visit the OUWB Communications & Marketingwebpage.

NOTICE: Except where otherwise noted, all articles are published under aCreative Commons Attribution 3.0 license. You are free to copy, distribute, adapt, transmit, or make commercial use of this work as long as you attribute Oakland University William Beaumont School of Medicine as the original creator and include a link to this article.

Follow OUWB onFacebook,Twitter, andInstagram.

Read this article:
Dan the Man: Meet the manager of OUWB's Anatomy Lab, medical students' 'first patients' - News at OU

What is the largest organ in the body? Skin versus liver, explained. – USA TODAY

Your anatomy operates like a machine, it's success hinging on the work of over 70 organs, each with a unique function. From the heart's blood pumping ability, to the liver's filtering power, each component of the human ecosystem forms anintegral part of the larger machinery.

To break down our food, to regulate sugar, to ward off the toxins of the outside world, our bodies depend onorgans to ensure survival.But, which organ is the biggest? How about the smallest? Can you live without some of your organs?

Take a deeper look inside your own anatomy with the answers to these questions,plus a few bonus facts about your bones and muscles, organs' helpful counterparts.

Organ transplant milestone:As US crosses 1 million mark, advances offer hope for millions more

Organs from the animal world: First-ever pig-to-human heart transplant offers hope for thousands in need of organs

The skin is the largest organ in the body. It is an external rather than an internal organ.

According to National Geographic, the average adult carries around 8 pounds and 22 square feet of skin on their body.

Yes, the skin is an organ, the largest.

It can seem counterintuitive since many of our other organs are unseen. The skin,made up of three layers: the Epidermis, the Dermisand the Hypodermis, is an external organ. It serves as a very important barrier between the body and bacteria, chemicals, and temperature.

Treat your skin right: Want smooth, glowing skin all over? Add these body products into your routine

Healthline reports thatthe top five largest organs in the human body are:

The liver is the bodys largest solid, internal organ. In the upper right part of your abdomen, the liver is your body's filtration system.

It filters toxins out of the blood and produces protein for blood plasma. The liver also produces bile, a product which helps to move waste and break down fats in the small intestine during digestion.

It is a dark brown/red and weighs in at approximately 3 pounds.

To date, there are 79 generally recognized organs in the human body, both internal and external.

This is not a question with a direct answer, as strength has many different measures.

Based on weight, the Library of Congress reports that the strongest muscle in the body is the Masseter. It is one of the four muscles responsible for chewing.

The largest muscle in the human body is the Gluteus Maximus. It is responsible for keeping your posture upright, and is the principal antigravity force working when you walk up stairs.

Other strong muscles include the tongue, heart, uterine muscles, external eye muscles, and Soleus(a muscle found just below the calf).

Get your muscles right: Workouts for each fitness goal, from weight loss to finding your abs

The femur.

It is the longest and strongest bone in your body. The femur is your thigh bone, running from your knee to your hip. Its a difficult bone to break, but if you do, youll likely need surgery.

The pineal gland. It is an incredibly small endocrine gland found in the brain that regulates your circadian rhythm (sleep pattern) by releasing melatonin.

This ever so small organ is shaped like a tiny pinecone, hence the name pine-al gland.

There are 8 blood types, made from four different blood groups A, B, AB, and O. Your genetic makeup determines which blood group you will fall into.

Each of these letters or letter combos can be either RhD positive or negative, making the 8 total types:

What is the most common blood type?: Here's which of the eight is most (and least) common.

It may spark some confusionthat arteries, though a category unto themselves, can be organs as well. The arteries are a critical component of the cardiovascular system, pumping oxygenated blood to the rest of your body.

Artery is the specific term used for this type of blood vessel. Organ is a more broad term that is used to describe a group of tissues that structurally form a functioning, specialized unit of the human anatomy.

Since arteries are made up of tissue, and have a specialized function, they can be classified as organs.

Beta-cells are responsible for the production of insulin, and then subsequently storing that insulin and secreting it when needed based on concentration levels of glucose and fatty acids in the body.

The human body can feasibly operate without a number of different organs. According to Insider, that list includes:

Of note, some of these organs can be removed without much modification while others require regular medical treatments or adjustments to make a healthy life in their absence feasible.

Just Curious?: Your everyday questions, answered.

Continued here:
What is the largest organ in the body? Skin versus liver, explained. - USA TODAY

What Happened To Sara Ramirez After Leaving Grey’s Anatomy? – Looper

After leaving "Grey's Anatomy" in 2016, Sara Ramirez continued their career as an actor. Their first significant role after "Grey's" was their main role as Kat Sandoval in the political drama "Madam Secretary" for the show's fourth and fifth seasons from 2017 to 2019 (via IMDb). Additionally, from 2012 to 2018, Ramirez voiced the role of Queen Miranda in the animated children's series "Sofia the First."

A couple of years after "Madam Secretary" ended, Ramirez landed another leading role on the highly anticipated HBO Max sequel series to "Sex and the City," titled "And Just Like That ..." In the series, Ramirez plays Che Diaz, a nonbinary queer comedian who hosts a podcast alongside Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker). After being introduced to Miranda Hobbes (Cynthia Nixon) by Carrie, the two begin a romance even though Miranda is still married. By the end of the series, Miranda has left her marriage and has decided to move to Los Angeles with Che.

Read more from the original source:
What Happened To Sara Ramirez After Leaving Grey's Anatomy? - Looper

ABC Fall 2022 Premiere Dates for Grey’s Anatomy, Station 19, The Rookie: Feds, and More – TV Guide

ABC kicked off fall TV season with the return of its comedy shows, debuting new episodes of The Conners, The Goldbergs, Home Economics, and newly minted Emmy-winnerAbbott Elementary. And though dramaBig Skyreturned for a third season, with Jensen Ackles joining the cast as the charming potential love interest who steps in as temporary sheriff, the bulk of ABC's fall TV lineup has yet to premiere.

Sunday, Sept. 25 marks the debut of two new game shows: Celebrity Jeopardy! and Celebrity Wheel of Fortune. Those will be followed by the Nathan Fillion-starring LAPD crime dramaThe Rookie, back for a fifth season. That show's brand new spin-off The Rookie: Feds starring Niecy Nash, premieres Tuesday Sept. 27 afterBachelor in Paradise. The network's most popular dramas Grey's Anatomy,Station 19, andThe Good Doctor won't premiere until October. ABC's fall TV premiere schedule culminates in the debut of the newHilary SwankdramaAlaska Daily.

See the complete list of ABC's 2022 fall TV premiere dates below,check out trailers for the new shows, and see the full2022 fall TV premiere date schedulefor new and returning shows across all networks.

Caterina Scorsone and Kelly McCreary,Grey's Anatomy

Wednesday, Sept. 218 p.m.: The Conners Season 58:30 p.m.: The Goldbergs Season 109 p.m.: Abbott Elementary Season 29:31 p.m.: Home Economics Season 310 p.m.: Big Sky Season 3

Friday, Sept. 238 p.m.: Shark Tank Season 149:01 p.m.: 20/20 (two hours)

Sunday, Sept. 258 p.m.: Celebrity Jeopardy! NEW SERIES9 p.m.: Celebrity Wheel of Fortune Season 310 p.m.: The Rookie Season 5

Tuesday, Sept. 278 p.m.: Bachelor in Paradise Season 810 p.m.: The Rookie: Feds NEW SERIES

Sunday, Oct. 27 p.m.: America's Funniest Home Videos Season 33

Monday, Oct. 38 p.m.: Bachelor in Paradise new episode10 p.m.: The Good Doctor Season 6

Thursday, Oct. 68 p.m.: Station 19 Season 69 p.m.: Grey's Anatomy Season 1910 p.m. Alaska Daily NEW SERIES

Follow this link:
ABC Fall 2022 Premiere Dates for Grey's Anatomy, Station 19, The Rookie: Feds, and More - TV Guide

Anatomy of a Night review: Joyous, sexy, infectious, seductive – The Irish Times

Anatomy of a NightThe Depot, The Complex

Hows your night going? In the Complexs splendid new cavernous performance space, Kevin Murphys striking lighting, Sal Stapletons videography, Rory Sweeneys sound design with music by a different DJ each night and a catwalk pushing through the audience all delineate the club.

Aiming to evoke a night, any night, in queer and club spaces, the dancer and choreographer Nick Nikolaou does it solo, serially creating a cast. His queers, weirdos, fringes and nightwalkers are expressed by their efficiently changed costumes-with-attitude (designed by Dearbhla Beirne): striding down the catwalk preening in thigh boots, bustier and half-ball gown, or out of it in a sparkly slip dress, an uncertain lurker in a shirtless suit with something to prove, or writhing and oozing sex, or muscular anthems in a tight jumpsuit.

Nikolaou creates multiple characters through an energising, skilful, perfectly observed and sometimes dizzying range of club dance styles. Joyous, sexy, infectious and seductive, Anatomy of a Night is also tinged with regret for something lost lost to the pandemic and lost to the citys absence of clubbing spaces. After the performance, theres a club night for the audience.

Runs at the Complex, Dublin 7, until Saturday, September 24, as part of Dublin Dance Festival

Go here to read the rest:
Anatomy of a Night review: Joyous, sexy, infectious, seductive - The Irish Times

Living on the edge: A guide to knife anatomy with Swetha Sivakumar – Hindustan Times

A good knife, for someone who likes to cook, is like a really good pair of shoes. You dont really know what youve been missing, until you find the right fit. Dont know more than the blade from the hilt? Learn some knife anatomy.

Parts of the blade

* Edge: The part with which you cut your food. Keep it sharp! The edge can be straight or serrated.

* Spine: The back of the blade; the blunt side. Use this side or a scraper when scraping chopped food off the board. Dont use the sharp edge or youll prematurely dull the blade.

* Granton: These are the dimples along the edges of some knives. They minimise the amount of food that sticks to the blade while chopping.

* Tip: Use it to score ingredients or for delicate cuts. Dont use to open cans or packages; it will chip more easily over time.

* Heel: The side opposite to the tip. Use the heel for cutting large vegetables such as pumpkin.

Parts of the handle

* Bolster: The bump at the point where the blade and handle meet. Its added to some knives to protect the hand after an accidental slip. Having this part can make it difficult to sharpen the blade thoroughly.

* Tang: This is the part of the blade that runs through the handle. It the metal of the blade runs all the way through to the back of the handle, thats a full-tang knife. A full tang makes the handle feel heavier in the hand. This counterbalances the heaviness of the blade and makes cutting and slicing easier.

* Rivets: These hold the blade and handle together

* Pommel / Butt: The very end of the knife.

In the end, what matters is that you buy a knife that feels comfortable. Dont break the bank. There are plenty of good brands in the medium-price range. But do put some thought into it.

Subscribe to our best newsletters

Subscribed to newsletter successfully

Thank you for subscribing to our Daily News Capsule newsletter.

Read the rest here:
Living on the edge: A guide to knife anatomy with Swetha Sivakumar - Hindustan Times

The Anatomy of Two Firings – Sports Central

I listened to the Eastern Michigan/Arizona State game on the radio this past Saturday. Why radio? Because I've been trying in general to listen to more sports on the radio in general lately, and specifically when it's late and I'm trying to prepare for sleep, to try to allow the words to paint a bit of a picture in my head as I head to dreamland.

I was quite pleased with the result, a 9-point Eastern Michigan victory, for a number of reasons. One, you know I love me some upsets. Two, I lamented the paucity of upsets in my Week 1 column, but Weeks 2 and 3 have more than made up for that. Three, I like Eastern Michigan. They are my second favorite MAC team behind my hometown Akron Zips. I feel bad for them, because they don't really get to claim any geographical purview of their own, sharing a county with the University of Michigan.

I was quite surprised, however, to learn that after the game, Herm Edwards was relieved of his duties as ASU head coach.

I still remember hearing about Edwards' hiring five years ago, and, like a lot of people, I found it to be a real head-scratcher. American football fans, even semi-casual ones, are familiar with Edwards. Perhaps most of us knew him first as the beneficiary of the most famously boneheaded error in NFL history. Then, we knew him as the head coach of the Chiefs and Jets, the latter of whom he guided to three playoff berths in five years.

Still, most of us know him from his viral clip where he took great offense to a suggestion that the Jets might punt on a season that started irredeemably poorly..

Edwards can count himself lucky that his viral moment is one where he comes off well: passionate and with deep convictions.

So what I'm saying is, he's a likable guy, but when ASU hired him as head coach, he had been off the sidelines for 9 years, had finished 19-46 in his last four seasons coaching in the NFL, and had virtually no college coaching experience. It didn't seem like a good move.

But it kind of worked! Kind of. He went 26-20 as the Sun Devils head coach, including 17-14 in Pac 12 play.

No fan base is clamoring for 17-14 in conference games, but 1) it does keep you ahead of the median, and 2) not every school can have the expectations of an Alabama or an Ohio State. At those schools, 17-14 is fireable. In the Pac-12, it's probably fireable for Oregon, USC, and maybe UCLA and Utah.

Other schools need to take whatever success they can get. If that sounds harsh, understand that what I mean by that is if you aspire to be a perennial contender, or at least better than making a bowl every other year, you need to start with stability. Impulsive firings, especially ones that take place mid-season, is the breeding ground of instability.

And make no mistake, this was an impulsive firing. Proponents of Edwards' ouster might point to the NCAA looking into recruiting violations and misdeeds by the Edwards' regime, and I'm not defending those. I am saying, however, if you want to can a guy for not running a clean program, the offseason is the time to do it. By allowing him to start the season, you are sending a clear message of support for that coach.

Bottom line: I'm just having a real hard time buying any argument that Edwards wasn't chiefly fired for losing to Eastern Michigan, and I think his on-field results warranted surviving that loss, especially since he want undefeated against rival Arizona in his tenure.

Then there's the case of the other mid-season firing of note, Scott Frost. I don't think I've ever seen a hot seat as hot as the one Scott Frost came out of last season with. My heart bled for him, because I was certain that he was going to get fired, which after that record number of close losses just made him seem incredibly unlucky. I grant that if you never win close games, as seemed to be the case with Frost, the problem might be larger, and more resolvable, than luck.

Still, I thought keeping him on by the powers that be at Nebraska, and allowing him the chance to redeem himself, was the right move. Then he lost a close loss again to Northwestern. Ouch!

Then, two weeks later, you know what happened: another close loss not to a ruddy-cheeked, stout Big Ten West foe, but Georgia Southern. Major, major upset, as Georgia Southern was +22.5 underdogs and Nebraska is just in another league, figuratively and literally, in terms of resources, support, and money.

Mid-season firings, as I stated, engenders instability, and should only be done in drastic cases. This was one of those. Frost survived the offseason by the skin of his teeth, and then doubled down in the most horrific of ways on the reason his job was in jeopardy to begin with.

But what made this an especially savvy move by Nebraska is that they fired them when they did. They could have waited until October 1st or after, and saved themselves $7.5 million by so doing; October 1st was the prescribed date in Frost's contract that states his buyout drops from $15 million to $7.5 million (approximately) if he is still head coach.

Nebraska's season is already shot, so why not just wait a few weeks and save yourself some money? The only reason is to send a message to your legion of supporters and fans: this isn't acceptable to us, either. It was an expensive, but warranted and important gesture to Nebraska fans.

Frost was a Husker hero from his playing days who achieved nigh unimaginable success coaching Central Florida. He was hired as Nebraska's head coach on December 3, 2017. Edwards was hired by Arizona State the day before. In terms of their tenures at their most recent schools, they are almost exact contemporaries.

Put another way: Frost was the right hire, and was fired at the exact right time. Edwards, at least on paper, was the wrong hire, exceeded expectations, earned more of a leash than he got, and was fired at the exact wrong time. Expect Nebraska to succeed on the field again sooner than Arizona State.

Here is the original post:
The Anatomy of Two Firings - Sports Central

Why Was Sandra Oh At The Queen’s Funeral? The ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ Star Is An Officer Of The "Order Of Canada" – Bustle

While all eyes are on Westminster Abbey and the UK during Queen Elizabeth IIs funeral procession, people were surprised to see one of their favorite TV stars in attendance: actor Sandra Oh.

Oh, the star of BBCs Killing Eve, wasnt there just to pay her respects to the late monarch who passed away on Sept. 8 at age 96. Oh actually had an official role in the procession as a member of the Order of Canada, a civilian honor that Queen Elizabeth II established in 1967 to recognize outstanding achievement, dedication to the community, and service to the nation. It is known as the third-highest civilian honor in the country behind the Cross of Valor (which awards civilians who have performed acts of courage in the face of peril) and membership in the Order of Merit, which recognizes distinguished service in the armed forces, science, art, literature, or for the promotion of culture.

Ontario, Canada native Oh was appointed as an Officer in June 2022 for her artistic career filled with memorable stage, television and film roles in Canada and abroad. Because Canada is a Commonwealth country, Queen Elizabeth established the Order of Canada on the advice of then-Canadian prime minister Lester B. Pearson for the celebration of the Canadian Confederations centennial. Those who have been given the honor wear a maple leaf-shaped insignia with a red and white ribbon that symbolizes Canadas national colors.

Oh was part of the procession that arrived prior to the British royal family and the Queens coffin, and was seen wearing an all-black ensemble, except for her Order of Canada ribbon. Others in her group included holders of the Victoria Cross, The George Cross, and the Orders of Chivalry as well as other nominated Officers of the Commonwealth. As part of the Canadian delegation, Oh also joined Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau and his wife Sophie Gregoire Trudeau in paying her respects.

Fans watching at home expressed their surprise (and delight) in seeing one of their favorite stars as part of the official ceremony.

Other public figures who attended in an official capacity were Peep Shows Sophie Winkleman, who is married to Lord Frederick Windsor, the son of the Queens cousin Prince Michael of Kent. Man vs. Wilds Bear Grylls, who was representing the Scouts Association as the United Kingdoms Chief Scout, was also in attendance.

Get Even More From Bustle Sign Up For The Newsletter

From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent.

Originally posted here:
Why Was Sandra Oh At The Queen's Funeral? The 'Grey's Anatomy' Star Is An Officer Of The "Order Of Canada" - Bustle

Rogba & Bio Arimoro Talk about the Anatomy of a Relationship and their Podcast Love and Everything In Between – BellaNaija

Film and TV director, Rogba Arimoro, known for his films Faultlines and Tokunbo and also for the popular TV show Judging Matters is no stranger to lights and cameras but hes usually the one behind the camera not in front of it.

After being married to his wife, Bio for over 11 years and working together for 3 years, Its safe to say that theyve been through quite a lot together.

They recently decided to audit their relationship and realised that there were quite a lot of things that they wished that they had known before saying I Do.

This audit and their decision to share resulted in the Love and Everything in Between podcast.

They sat down to have a quick word with them about the entire experience.

How did you meet?

Rogba: Its quite an interesting story and the telling of it depends on who you ask (Bio laughs). We met at the University of Lagos when we both transferred to the department of Actuarial Science. We were both in relationships at the time and instead of doing the smart thing by ending those, we jumped into an affair and snuck around for a couple of months. We eventually decided to stop hurting our significant others and broke it off with them to actively pursue an actual relationship.

How was it coming clean?

Bio: Coming clean is never easy. It was messy, and theres nothing quite as horrible as looking at the pain in someones eyes as you tell them that youve intentionally betrayed their trust for no just reason.

Rogba: Cheating on anyone is a completely unfair thing to do to them. Looking back, its a cowardly way to handle dissatisfaction in your relationship. But coming clean was hard but also liberating. Lies thrive in secrecy and darkness and its a heavy burden to carry but once its out there, you feel lighter.

Starting a relationship the way that you did, would you say it affected your relationship in anyway?

Rogba: We almost didnt make it. Its a whole different ball game when theres no more thrill of hiding but we decided from day one to be completely honest with each other no matter what. We were friends first and we decided to always keep that part of our relationship at the fore. Its the secret sauce that has kept us going till now.

Bio: We were friends before we started dating and when we decided to give a serious relationship a try, we told each other that if it didnt work we would not throw the friendship away. It wasnt easy at the beginning but we kept at it and here we are.

You both work in the same industry; that can be difficult for married people to do. How do you cope with that?

Rogba: Working together can be challenging; especially when youre both driven to excellence. We had quite a few clashes at the beginning but quickly learnt that the key is professionalism. Keep work and your personal relationship separate. Anything else is a recipe for disaster.

Bio: We have a very strict rule now that work and marriage must be kept in separate silos. There are projects weve worked on where many people are surprised at the end to find out that were married.

In the first few episodes of your podcast, we hear a lot of talk about a list. Can you tell us about this list?

Bio: I didnt have much on my list. I just wanted to be sure that he would take care of me, stand by me and protect me. He had a very long list where he wanted to know how many times we would have sex, who would handle what financially, etc. To be truthful sha, his list helped shape our marriage and make it better. I was in la-la-land and that never helped anyone.

Rogba: The list was basically a checklist of questions about our thoughts and beliefs on a range of topics. It included important things like spirituality, money, sex, number of kids etc. all the way down to the mundane things like pressing toothpaste from the end or middle, toilet seat up or down, etc. I felt it was important to completely understand each others views on all things pertaining to being in a relationship and see how compatible we were in those regards. We knew that these things were not necessarily cast in stone, but they provided a strong foundation upon which we would build the rest of our relationship.

Why this podcast?

Rogba: Over our 11 years of marriage, weve been through quite a number of circumstances and encountered a lot of challenges that no one told us about or we couldnt have envisioned. Recently, we were clearing out some old stuff and found bits of our original checklist and reading through those questions again, we decided to audit our relationship and took it a step further to speak to several other couples as well as a few separated/divorced friends. We realized that a lot of these challenges werent necessarily unique to us and the phrase I wish someone had told us. came up a lot; We thought about it and decided why not share our journey with other people. It would hopefully provide some helpful tips for people who are thinking about getting married as well as some sort of context for people who were already in committed relationships. Its really not about giving anyone specific advice because we arent experts, but we know that weve had an interesting journey and feel like it would have been great to have had some of this information ahead.

Bio: Yup. We could have saved ourselves a lot of fights and headaches.

What would you say has been the glue that has kept you guys together so far?

Rogba: Well, friendship is the first thing. Even if we werent together anymore, we like to believe that we would still be friends. That has been an immovable part of our relationship from the start. Even when we broke up a few times, we somehow managed to keep that part of us alive.

Also, some key similar interests also helped. For example, our love of travel together, similar tastes in music, and our interest in film and tv entertainment.

Can you give a summary of 12 years of marriage; how youve navigated some of the biggest challenges such as almost dying, health challenges as well, and family living with you?

Rogba: The first thing about being in a committed relationship is to see your spouse as an equal partner in your relationship. Constant open and honest communication is a close second. Better to fight and settle than to pretend. Once you have these 2 things in place, you can handle anything.

Bio: We have always been real and true with each other, and I think that is what has helped us so far. We are very in tune with each other. Sometimes even without saying a word and just sharing a look we know what the other person is thinking. I love our friendship and wouldnt trade it for anything else.

What was it like recording the podcast?

Rogba: Shooting a podcast is quite different from making a film or a tv show but its been a truly fun and enriching experience. We also learnt a thing or two along the way. We started out recording just ourselves and then we got some of our good friends Ibrahim and Linda Suleiman, Temi and Scarlet Gomez, and a number of other people to join us to give proper perspective on some of the topics that we explored.

What has the reception to the podcast been like?

Bio: The reception has been better than we could ever have hoped. Weve gotten messages, phone calls and comments from so many people telling us how interesting they found the content and how the episodes have helped improve their relationships and understanding of their significant others.

Watch Love and Everything in Between on the Love&Everything Podcast YouTube channel.

New episodes come out every Monday and Friday at 4pm (GMT+1)

Sponsored Content

Originally posted here:
Rogba & Bio Arimoro Talk about the Anatomy of a Relationship and their Podcast Love and Everything In Between - BellaNaija